New Year… not New Me… on purpose!
It’s another new year and although many are feeling the new year, new me thing… it’s not for us. Last year, had been an outstanding experience of highs and lows. Now we are entering the 20’s again and although I am more then ready for a new year but not ready for New Years resolutions. I feel it’s important not to wish away a bad year or hope for something bigger and better. 2019 was a whirlwind of a year and although I can see the neon signs that say “Welcome to the 20’s” I think it’s more important to reflect on the last year. Otherwise the new years is just full of new years resolutions that I’d never follow through with.
Here are my top 5 reasons to hold the experiences of 2019 in high regard.
- Our family has experienced amazing things and terrible things. Not to sound corny, but everything has happened for a reason. Sickness has strengthened relationships, disappointments have taught us about our desires, and achieving the things we always thought we wanted were met with enjoyment. Sometimes however, a realization occurred that maybe those things weren’t all that important after all.
- Balance is key. A perfect balance is impossible. One thing we learned in 2019 was too much work or too much play doesn’t make sense for us. Moving between busy and slow times seemed to make me lose my mind. For a while, I was moving to fast and not enjoying any of it. It was time for a change.
- Travel is fun but being home is better. When married a trip for two is always called for. But after we finally found our forever home, we quickly learned a weekend home or a party with friends is more enjoyable then leaving.
- Delayed gratitude is the definition of being an adult. Throughout the struggles of renovating our home we learned immediate gratification isn’t something that comes easily. Yes, painting a room is rewarding and feels like a quick fix. Yet, I am the woman who still has a hole in her hardwood floors from taking down a wall. I’ve learned to be okay with that.
- The highs aren’t always that high. As the world continues to turn, there are things that seem like the best moments you have ever had. But then life happens and one that is even better is on its tail. When I was younger, I would be concerned that a great moment would be ruined by a bad one. I’ve learned the bad ones are easier to take if you convince yourself there is always a good one around the corner. Like finding the perfect brass candlesticks!
And so it begins…without New Years Resolutions
As 2020 begins I refuse to forget the moments of 2019 that made us who we are today. I’ve never been one for New Years resolutions because let’s be honest, if I really want to do something, I’m going to just do it (like baking my first cheesecake). For those of you who do I wish you the absolute best in working towards your goals. Don’t forget small wins are huge too.
Remember, No matter what last year looked like, 2019 was only yesterday.